Do you know what’s in your husband’s wallet? Would you ever go to it? And guys, do you know what’s in your wife’s pocketbook or handbag? This was something a few of us are talking about at a recent dinner. A friends and I both said we wouldn’t have a clue because we’ve never looked, though I could take a few educated guesses. Not that Mick has ever told me not to look in his wallet. I just don’t. He’s entitled to keep whatever he likes in it. Similarly he doesn’t go to my pocketbook or handbag. Even if I ask him to get something from my handbag, he will bring out the whole handbag and hand it to me, which is exactly what I would do if he asked me to get something from his wallet.
In the same category are computers. I never go to his computer. I don’t even know how to get his to work, as it’s a lot different to mine. And as for the internet sites he goes into – I wouldn’t have a clue.
Similarly he hates my little laptop and only goes near it when I ask him for help with a particular problem. And he wouldn’t know what websites I go into. It’s just not that important to know.
It’s not that either of us thinks the other has any burning secrets we’re keeping from the other, it’s just common courtesy and respecting each other’s privacy. It both cases it’s more an issue of trust, respect and privacy.
Into the same category comes opening his mail. I don’t open it unless he’s told me to, even though sometimes I might be curious, as I was recently when a parcel arrived addressed to him. Despite my curiosity, I handed it to him. I could be wrong but I suspect in time I’ll find out it was an anniversary gift or a birthday gift he’s seen online and bought in advance. He’ll show me what was in it when the time is right. I could go through his garage or study looking if was inclined. I won’t. Any more than he’d come and ferret through my study.
What about you? Would you go to your spouse’s wallet or pocket book? Or do you know and trust them enough to allow them privacy?
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