Parenthood changes the marital relationship. Any mother will tell you that her relationship with her spouse changed when they became parents. What you may not realize is the changes begin before the baby arrives. From the time you find out you are expecting, the dynamic of the relationship will change.
Your marriage may change in several ways. Change is not always a bad thing. It can be a good and healthy thing. The changes are definitely normal. After all, you are going from a couple to a family. This is bound to make a difference in the relationship.
One thing that will change is your conversations. You will find that you are talking less about current events and more about future events, namely the arrival of your child. This is to be expected. You are both spending more and more time thinking about the baby and making plans for the future.
You may notice that your husband or partner becomes more protective of you during pregnancy. He may show a new concern about things that didn’t worry him before. This is a very normal and loving reaction. Depending on your mood, it may be annoying at times. Try to remember that he loves you and the baby. He is trying to protect and care for you.
Another change you may notice is how you spend your time together. You may be spending more time getting ready for the baby, shopping for gear and browsing through baby catalogs and name books. The time you spend together preparing your home for the new arrival may not seem as exciting as going to a concert or hiking, but it is fun in a different way.
While you may be enjoying the time you spend getting ready for the baby, try not to let it become all you do together. Spend some couple time as well. Keep in mind that once the baby arrives, you won’t have as much time for romantic dinners or walks on the beach. The time you invest in your relationship will benefit you, your partner and your child. A secure and loving marriage is a great gift for your child.
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