If you are nearing the end of your pregnancy and you find that each Braxton Hicks contraction is making you cringe at the thought of a real one, it may be time to unwind and relax. Labor hurts, it’s true, but it’s not something to be afraid of. Getting stressed about your impending delivery will have no impact on the pain. Worrying about the pain won’t make it go away. That said, you might as well make the most of your final weeks, by enjoying the quiet nights and free time that you will undoubtedly miss once your bundle of joy arrives.
First, stop watching deliveries on TV and the internet. Watching a birth will not prepare you for your own. In fact, it may only make you more nervous because some ladies turn up the volume and the drama when they are giving birth. After watching some of these births, I can tell you that it is not as bad as it sometimes looks on You Tube or A Baby Story. It’s more likely you’ll be that woman quietly pushing air through her lips than the one grasping at the bed and screaming bloody murder. The Labor & Delivery floor was full the day I gave birth and I only heard one woman scream. My nurse assured me the woman was overreacting at every little thing and I heard nothing once she received her epidural.
Second, set the mood for relaxation. Put on a comfortable pair of pajamas. Dim the lights in your living room, or shut them off altogether, and light scented candles. Brew a cup of delicious decaffeinated tea. Enjoy your favorite snack and listen to whatever type of music puts you at ease. If worrisome thoughts pop into your head, write them down in a notebook and immediately put them out of your mind. Next time you visit your doctor, share your concerns with him or her. You may discover that the things you are worried about are not as common as you thought. A simple explanation or answer may put your mind at ease.
Finally, talk to women who are confident in your ability to handle birth and will encourage you when you worry. There were a few women in my church who really encouraged me when I was pregnant. I attribute my confidence going into delivery to them. They always smiled and told me, “you’ll be fine. It’s not as bad as you think. You can do it!” Avoid women who tell labor room horror stories like the plague! That is not what you need to be hearing right now!