I have a small confession to make – the one drawback to being married is that you don’t have the sweetness potential that exists in going on a date for the first time. You know – the sensation of nervousness coupled with excitement that flutters in your tummy? You worry about how you look and how things will go and you look for great conversation to engage your date with and you want to be able to look back at that first date with absolute fondness.
How to Create a First Date
But here is something I have discovered – just because you’re married doesn’t mean you can’t recreate your first date. After all, what’s the first date all about, but discovery and romance? I’m sure you enjoy romance with your spouse and that you enjoy discovering new things together or about each other. So why not romance them with a creative ‘first’ date whether you’ve been married for five days, five weeks or five years.
The first key to creating a first date is to make it unusual. Dinner and a movie are great (really, they are great), but you can be more creative than that. Why not make reservations and travel up to your spouse’s work and surprise him or her with a lunch date?
I’ve worked full time in the corporate atmosphere and there’s something really spectacular about being surprised in the middle of the day with a wonderful meal and company. Be sure that you don’t let them bring anyone along from the office and don’t talk about anything that you would normally talk about at home. No talk of bills or kids or responsibilities – instead, talk about entertainment, news, politics, faith or the latest passing fancy.
One afternoon, I took my husband out for a lunch ‘date’ and we spent our entire time speculating on the people who walked past our restaurant window. We made up stories about them and where they were going and what they were thinking. It had absolutely nothing to do with us and we had no idea if we were right or not, but oh we laughed and laughed and enjoyed ourselves.
We also discovered that sometimes you have to turn the rest of your life off to really enjoy the time together – have you been creative in dating your spouse recently?