Stress is something that comes to all of us at varying times and in varying ways in our marriage. It can have detrimental effects, producing headaches, depression, overeating, high blood pressure, stomach upsets and constant minor illnesses because the immune system is low. From all the symptoms a young man experienced, he thought he was having a heart attack. The hospital found he was having a panic attack caused by too much stress.
So for our health and for the sake of our marriages let’s find ways to deal with the stress. I’ve been reading Always Looking Up by Michael J Fox. One of the points that came across to me from it is we don’t know what the future holds for any of us. We may not be able to change the stressful situations in our lives but we do have the choice as to how we deal with the stress.
The other thing that struck me about this book was the absolute support he gets from his wife and the credit he gives her for that support.
So now suggestions for how to deal with stress:
Keep a positive outlook.
Keep in good communication with your spouse and share your troubles. Going through situations together is much easier than having to go it alone. Remember the old adage a problem shared is a problem halved.
Keep up physical contact and signs of affection for your spouse.
Put it all down. Sometimes a good way of getting our head clear about a situation and seeing more clearing is putting it all down on paper. It helps to write it out, whether it’s a pros and cons list as a young couple I know do, a vent or a more regular journal.
For those of us into journaling sometimes it is interesting to go back and look at past entries. I’ve done that and found times where I’d been in a really bad way but when things improved I’ve forgotten how bad some of those times were till I reread them. It can then make you feel the current situation is not as so bad after all and that you will pull through the current stressful situation.
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