These days we here a lot about how a positive attitude can affect events. No where is this more true than in marriage.
It seems it doesn’t matter whether it is a footy team talking about their need for self belief that they can still make the finals despite some bad results, or people who are trying to overcome a serious illness and believe a positive attitude can help them win through.
The reality is when we enter into marriage we need to go into it with the right attitude. We need to have an attitude that we are committed to making it work. Sadly some people go into marriage with the attitude that if it doesn’t work we can always get a divorce. If you go in with that attitude then you are always looking for the way out and looking for the faults and thinking of what you are missing rather than focusing on what you have.
The difference with a positive attitude is that you are determined to make it work and because you are determined to make it work you will do everything in your power to achieve the desired result. That might mean making more time to spend together. It doesn’t just happen automatically. You have to set aside that time. Otherwise it is too easy for it to get taken up with other things less important than keeping your relationship and your marriage together.
If it means talking out problems rather than letting them fester you will do it. If it means sharing your heart about your deepest dreams and needs then you will do it. If it means showing your spouse how much you love them by little acts of kindness and demonstrations of love, you will do it. And you won’t be thinking of how much you are doing and all you are giving but rather on how to please the other person.
My calendar today has this quote from Janet L Weaver. ‘It’s always good to get back to the basics… like sharing our hearts and caring for each other.’ These are helpful words. When we really want to make a success of our marriage we will do whatever it takes. A positive attitude is the starting point.
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