Okay, hold on to your hats moms and dads. I read this article this morning entitled “bored mom sparks outrage.” Apparently, an American expatriate in Great Britain wrote an editorial on how boring she found being a mother. Now, before you string me up for saying I understood what she was talking about – most moms do. It just sounds horrible for us to say we find mom hood boring.
My husband’s grandmother, a mother of eight children herself, did not like babies. She liked toddlers. She loved children – but she didn’t like babies. A friend of mine loves babies, all babies, no matter their temperament – she adores them, but she’s not very fond of small children. She likes them again when they are teenagers and she can relate to them better.
Being a Mom is Work
When you’re a mom, there are a lot of things you have to do that are not going to fall into the category of fun. For example, changing dirty diapers, cleaning up spit up, comforting a cranky fidget that will not go to sleep and getting up at all hours of the night.
None of these activities are ‘enjoyable.’ It does not make you a bad mother to say you don’t care for them. I remember when my baby was about six months old and if she wasn’t teething she had gas, if she didn’t have gas, she was wanting something new to do and nothing I did seemed to really satisfy her.
Now, bear in mind – she was typically a very happy baby but just before we went through a growth spurt – she became an absolute bear. These were the times I remember philosophically stating I understood why some animals eat their young.
Not liking a stage doesn’t make you a bad parent
My husband doesn’t care for newborns in particular. In fact, he is very uncomfortable with them. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t like babies as they get older and more interactive. So here’s a thought, before getting bent that a mom says being a mom is boring – note what she is referring to. There’s a lot of boring hurry up and waiting you do as a mom – and there are plenty of times when I miss the intellectual stimulation of conversation that’s aren’t punctuated by drool and teething cries – still – being a mom might be boring and even when I agree – I still wouldn’t trade it away – not even for a do over.
Do you find being a mom boring sometimes?
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