I think that it is human nature–or at least it seems so in this age and society–to identify our weaknesses and try to work on those. As single parents, we are often quite aware of our weaknesses–those places where we struggle or think we need to make improvements. Instead of focusing in on our weak points, however, we might be much better off if we identify our strengths as a person and as a parent, and focus on those!
I could probably sit here and list my faults and flaws all day–or at least for half a day. What is tougher for me, however, is to think over all the things I might be doing well. It can even be hard for me to hear compliments from other people about my parenting, work, or things they see as valuable in our family. I am not sure why that is, but I do know that when I work on fostering an appreciation for the things I do well and my personal strengths–I feel better about what I’m doing and I am a more pleasant person to be around!
So, as this single parent looks to the new year and starts thinking about what I would like to work on in the coming twelve months, I might just be better off taking stock of what I am already doing a decent job at. What are my strengths? What are the things that are going well in my family and with my children? Ask yourself if you are loving and affectionate? Do you do a good job at limit setting or providing a warm, pleasant and safe environment for your children? Are you loyal and reliable? Instead of thinking over all your flaws and foibles, spend some time thinking of your strengths as a single parent and see if it doesn’t improve your overall perspective!