I felt challenged recently to write this blog. The web content company that I work for has some new assignments for me, lifestyle articles. I am used to writing about the law, so this was a great opportunity to write about something different.
When my editor was describing the content, she said, “Think Cosmopolitan.” Okay, I haven’t picked up one of those magazines in ages…probably a good 20 years. Thankfully I was able to opt out of certain topics that would make me uncomfortable but we had an interesting “discussion” via Skype on whether that magazine really holds any water.
I don’t typically pay attention to the cover of that magazine. But sometimes when I am waiting in line, I will notice it. You can almost guarantee that one of the topics that will grace the cover pertains to sex.
I had made the comment to my editor that if I ever tried some of the stuff that magazine suggests, my husband would probably laugh at me. She said that someone should write an article about the myths behind Cosmo. Hmmm….that felt like a challenge.
While this blog isn’t exactly a direct challenge, it is my attempt to expose what I believe is some myths behind Cosmo. I understand the intent is to “spice” things up. And it may be geared toward a younger generation but I know that women can fall prey to these ideas.
Now don’t me wrong, I am not a fuddy-duddy. I believe in keeping your marriage healthy in all areas, including intimacy. But I also believe in reality.
Too often we get sucked into the “idea” of romance but it’s not just through Cosmo. It can be in movies and books. We look to others for help when all we really have to do is look to our spouse.
No topic should be off the table when you are married. Discussing how your intimacy can be improved is important. Seasons change, needs change.
We tend to have false expectations when we are looking to other sources to improve this area of our life. And while I don’t knock anyone who is a fan of “Cosmopolitan” magazine, I do advise to use caution and discretion when adopting ideas it offers.
Your best source for improving intimacy in your marriage is still your spouse.
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