It seems to be a trend these days for young mothers to want to have baby sleeping in the room with them and in some cases in the bed with them. I have to admit, it is not something we ever did with ours. My thoughts are children need to get used to being in their own room and own bed from the beginning.
For starters, I don’t think it is fair on the husband to expect him to share a bed with baby. The husband can often feel he has to share his wife more than enough already once she becomes mother, without having to share the marital bed as well. To have baby in bed or even in the room could be off putting for many men and they can end up feeling resentful that baby is taking over and usurping their place.
On the other hand, I’m not a fan of houses where the children’s rooms are nowhere near the parents’ bedroom either. In each case ours was either next door or just across a hallway. With baby monitors it solves the problem of not hearing them and keeping an ear out for them at all times.
The baby gets used to being on their own right from the words go and you shouldn’t them have any hassles with them as they get older. We never did with either of ours because the pattern had already been set from birth.
Yes, sometimes if it’s cold, you may feel it is a bit of a hassle having to get out of bed to feed baby, but in my mind it is a better option. I’d like to hear your experiences either way and your reasons for them. Whatever you decide you need to talk it over together as a couple and make sure you and your spouse are both happy about the arrangement.
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