Divorce was once a very quiet and embarrassing process. Now divorce is thought of to be a fairly common practice. While Heather addressed the drop in divorce percentage over the past couple of years, some do not give more than a second thought to obtaining a divorce.
Some people go into marriage feeling that if it does not work they have a way out trough a divorce. Divorce is too common and easy for many couples.
When most couples unite in marriage, they never consider the thought of getting a divorce. So what happens a few years (or months) later when the term enters the couple’s vocabulary? Some couples begin looking for an easy way out. Divorce appears to be an easier option than changing your lifestyle or visiting a counselor.
When some couples argue they immediately threaten to move back home with their parents or to call a lawyer. These types of threats only set the couple up for failure.
I actually know a couple in which the wife threatened to move back home during almost every argument. The husband got tired of hearing the threats and agreed that if she felt that way then she should move back home. The couple divorced. There were not other parties involved. They simply just could not work things out between them. Instead of turning to a counselor or minister, they turned to a lawyer.
Divorce should not be an option in normal cases of marriage. Divorce should not be used as a threat or a scare. Divorce should be a last option. It should come only when circumstances are at their very worst. Divorce should not even be a consideration during a common argument between partners.
There are marriages that need to end. There are cases of spousal abuse that need to stop. However, there are also many marriages that could have been saved.