Do you view your marriage as a balloon, taking you to new heights? Or do you view it as a ball and chain, dragging you down?
Yesterday while talking to my daughter she expressed her reaction to the negativity projected by many about marriage. They’re the ones who come out with the ball and chain and lack of freedom idea. We see that portrayed all the time in movies and TV shows with the idea that the buck’s night is the last night of freedom. I saw it this week in a TV show. Even though I normally love the show, this attitude annoyed me.
‘I think marriage is like a balloon,’ my daughter said. ‘It lifts you up and takes you to new horizons.
Now, I don’t know about you but I think that’s a lovely image of marriage. She obviously has more than a little of the poet in her too.
I agree with her. How much better to have this positive attitude toward marriage than the negative one that marriage ties you down?
What we think about marriage going into it, will affect how it turns out. If we go into marriage thinking it is going to curtail our freedom and tie us down, then that attitude will come out in the way we treat our spouse and the way we view events.
The reality is our attitudes invariably shape our actions and reactions to what life throws at us. The negative type of attitude breeds resentment, grumbling and discontent. It leads to fault finding, nagging and nit-picking. It leads, if it’s taken far enough, to adultery.
If we go into marriage with optimism and looking on it as expanding our horizons, we will look for the best in our marriage and in our spouse. We will radiate joy and that’s always infectious. We will be looking for ways to improve our marriage, to care for our spouse and show them our love. When it all comes down to it, there’s no comparison, is there?
Related blogs
Want To Know How To Decrease Stress?
Walking Hand in Hand in Your Marriage