Is your Marriage Reaching Its full Potential? It’s a question we each might ask of our marriage. But what sort of qualities and attitudes will help ensure it does reach its full potential?
It is interesting sometimes not only to see how otter marriages work but to read up on those things that help us get the best out of our marriages. On a site I was reading recently you can grade your marriage. Since I’m a great one for quizzes and the like I couldn’t help grading my marriage. And received a huge shock. I was shocked to find we hadn’t rated as well in the marriage stakes as I thought we would. Then I scrolled down a bit further and saw I’d forgotten three categories which made all the difference. Imagine my relief!
So yes, even though my results put us in the top category, it’ll still be interesting to see what Mick’s do. I’m expecting them to be similar but you never know. At present, he’s mowing lawns before the heat gets even fiercer.
I was interested to see that number 1 on the list, and for good reason I believe, is shared values followed very closely by commitment to each other. I have to agree. If I had to name two characteristics most important in a marriage, I would put these two first too. Marriage is hard enough without trying to manage it when you are coming from two different outlooks on life and from vastly different sets of values. That to me sounds like a recipe for continuing conflict.
And unless you have commitment to each other, the marriage is never going to last very long, because you won’t be prepared to put the effort into making it work. A good marriage doesn’t just happen, it needs to be worked at and time devoted to it. You’re not going do that unless you are totally committed to each other and your marriage.
Join me for more next time.
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