When I was younger, I used to be much more spontaneous and much more of a “risk-taker” than I am now. Or, perhaps, I am still a pretty big risk-taker, I just do a bit more research and take more calculated risks than I did in my youth and young adulthood. As a single parent, it is perfectly fine to take time making big decisions. In fact, all that research and consideration can help us learn to be better decision-makers overall.
For example, I spent almost two years learning about art, reading books, going to galleries and thinking about what I would like to collect before I started collecting. Now, when I go into a gallery or a show (or even an estate sale) and fall in love with a painting or piece, it seems as though I am being incredibly spontaneous when I make a purchase. Sometimes it feels very spontaneous and risky to me in the moment too. The truth is, however, I did a lot of homework and research before I was ready to start the process.
Likewise, when I purchased a new dining room table this last spring, there was about a year and a half worth of shopping and budgeting before I made that purchase. It might seem slow or overly conservative to some people, but I have learned that it is okay to take my time before making a big decision—changing jobs, buying a house, buying a car, making an investment, dating, etc.—all of these may have been things that we did on a whim when we were younger, but it is perfectly reasonable to give ourselves plenty of time to research and consider the process before we take the leap. As long as we are still moving forward and still making decisions and choices, taking a little extra time for consideration is perfectly fine.
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