Depending on how you look at it, one of the interesting features of Facebook is learning what someone’s relationship status is. This can be a good thing when you want to tell the world that you are in a relationship. But then it can come back to haunt you when everyone finds out that you are now single again.
But there is another category that I always chuckle at when I see it as someone’s relationship status, “It’s Complicated.” That right there is a red flag.
If you think about it, though, relationships can be complicated. Even if you are married, it may be. In fact, at some point in your married years, I can almost guarantee you that it will become complicated.
One of the reasons for this is because of how differently we see and deal with things. We all come from different backgrounds and experiences. These are brought into the marriage and to be honest, sometimes they aren’t a good mix.
For instance, when my husband and I got married he had come straight from his mother’s house. He had never lived on his own. In fact, his mother did almost everything for him. I remember the time I was at work and he called me up to ask how to address an envelope.
On the other hand, I moved out when I was 19. I lived with a roommate, on my own and then with my sister for a time. I had come from a much more independent background. I can tell you that our experiences caused complications.
I think what is important is being able to recognize the reality of this. That we do bring into our marriages so many different experiences that we can expect some areas to be complicated—whether it’s dealing with finances, raising children, religious choosing and the list goes on.
It may be complicated but it can still work. It just takes time, effort, sacrifice and commitment.
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