If there is one thing I have learned in my marriage, it’s that it is never too late to change. Now before you get your hopes up, in thinking that I am talking about your spouse…know that I am actually talking to you.
So often we are looking at the things in our spouse that we would like to see changed. Yet if we would spend more time examining the state of our own hearts and the attitudes that we have, we are likely to find that we have our own issues.
It is so much easier to spend your time and energy focusing on what is wrong with another person. But the more you do that, the less good you see in them (even when its there) and the higher you put yourself on a pedestal.
And in most cases it is really just the little stuff about your spouse that gets to you. It’s the cap off the toothpaste, the dirty socks on the floor, the garbage that has been sitting there for days.
Take some time to evaluate the annoying habits you have developed. We all have them. Think about those things that might be unpleasant to your spouse and then determine that it is never too late to change.
You can only do your part. You can’t control other people. If you attempt to, it will only hurt your relationship.
You will also find that sometimes when you have put in effort to make personal changes, your spouse will recognize that and either determine to now do their part or it just sort of instinctively happens. However we don’t change with that as our goal.
We purpose to change even if it means our spouse continues to do whatever it is that we wish they wouldn’t (or would). We do it for the good of our marriage and for the growth of our character.
It doesn’t matter how old you are or how many years you have been married; it is never too late to change.
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