My son was sitting around with us this past weekend and he mentioned that someone in his class asked him why he had a sister and brother who was white. Now in case you do not know we adopted a sibling group that consists of 2 Caucasians and a bi-racial son who is part African American. They all have the same biological mother and just different dads. We have always been open and honest with them and they all have known that they are adopted but they also know that they are brothers and sisters.
I asked my son what he said to the kid in his class and his answer was just that he did not answer because it is none of his business. I first chuckled and then I asked him why he did not tell him that he was adopted and they are his brother and sister. His reply was simply “because he does not need to know. I told him they are and that is all he needs to know”. I am proud of him, he could have gone into this huge explanation to why they are white and he is not but he stuck with the simply “because” answer.
When I meet new people and they ask that question I think I am going to start answering with the just “because” answer. It is short, sweet and it is just to the point. Why is it anyone’s business why we don’t match? I have always replied because we adopted them but that they all have the same tummy mommy but I really like the “because” answer better. I mean I use that answer when my kids ask me why for everything else I go with the standard “because I said so that is why” so why can’t I go with “because” when it comes to this?
Now I have given crazy answers when the kids are not around. Once I said “well I thought the hospital gave me the wrong baby but what do I know”. I know it’s wrong but to see their face that day was priceless.
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