Unintentional and Unplanned
Although I am sure that most people do not intend on having a long distance relationship, it sometimes happens. Not the ideal situation, you find yourself talking to someone and before you know it, something just clicks. You start connecting and they become a part of your life. Moving to be closer to each other may not be an option for various reasons at this time in your life. You then find that there are two choices that can be made and both will be difficult. You can continue the relationship and face numerous challenges, or part and go your separate ways.
The Test of Love
If you decide to continue with the relationship the two key priorities involved are trust and communication. You cannot have this type of relationship if doubts are constantly in the way. It will leave you feeling extremely depressed and will ravage your mind. You have to be able to trust the other person with all of your heart and soul in order for the relationship to survive. If you are without that, the chances are slim that your long distance relationship will continue. The other important factor in this type of relationship is communication. This can sometimes take a great deal of creativity and patience between visits. Some possible suggestions for keeping in touch although far apart are listed below:
• Connect often throughout the day. Whether it is by telephone or online this is vital.
• No secrets allowed. Let the other person know your whereabouts at all times. If this relationship is a serious one, it is only
fair.
• Be creative and try to find things to do together although far apart. Some suggestions are surfing the net together, sharing
pictures or music, discussing your
day with each other, doing an activity online, such as a puzzle or a game, watching the same movie at the same time and
reading to each other. When you
have exhausted all of these, you will have to put your thinking cap on or start all over again.
• Send cards, letters, and/or small gifts to each other through the internet and/or online. This does not have to be anything
major, just something to let them
know that you are thinking of them and that they are important in your life.
• Using a webcam is a wonderful tool. It will allow you to see the other person while you are talking to them.
• Plan your time for when you are together and discuss the things that you will be doing.
When you finally do get together for your visits with your special someone, make the minutes count. Long distance relationships can be successful or they can fail. It is all up to the two parties involved and what they are hoping to have in this relationship. If you feel that the person that you have connected with is someone that is worth having in your life it will take time, commitment, patience, and real love.
Angel Lynn writes in weight loss and single parenting.