I have a confession to make…I am not a perfect mother. Ha, as if anyone ever thought that to be the case. But I have another confession…I don’t have perfect children.
While I can easily admit to this, not everyone seems to feel the same way about their children. Or at least that is the impression I get from some moms who seem to be shaking their heads at the difficulties our family has been going through lately.
There is nothing like being down as a mother and having someone come along to kick you while you are down. And that is exactly what it has felt like.
How about, “Gee, sorry to hear you are going through this” or “I am thinking of you.” Now don’t get me wrong. There are moms who have done this. I have a lot of support.
But its funny how just one person can come along and make all that good disappear. Because the truth is that it’s hard to not let the negativity of one person affect you. Or maybe that’s just true for me.
This past month I have been learning a lot of things. And although I have never been the type of person to openly judge a parent for the actions their child has made, I will admit that I have done it in the secret places of my heart.
No, I might not have come along and kicked a mother while she was down. But in my heart I have.
I have thought, “Well they must be doing something wrong.” “Glad my kids aren’t like that.” Ever think those things? I would guess most of us have.
Not only is it presumptuous to think these things but there is no guarantee that you won’t end up going through the same thing or something worse. In other words, don’t be too quick to give yourself a pat on the back because life could change in an instant.
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