A few weeks ago my ex-husband asked me if he could take Logan to a trunk-or-treat with his girlfriend’s daughter. It happened to fall on my weekend, but I told him that he could take him anyway. Weeks went by without another word about it and the night before I was debating about whether or not to say anything. Perhaps he had forgotten and wasn’t going to take him after all. I went back and forth for quite some time as I tried to decide what to do. I selfishly wanted to say nothing and hope that he didn’t show up so that I could play with Logan instead, but in the end, I knew it was something that Logan wanted so I caved in to my better half and text his dad to make sure he was still coming.
He did end up taking Logan, and even though Logan got tired of it rather quickly I am glad that he had the opportunity to go with him. It also gave me a chance to have some girl time shopping with my mom while he was gone, something that is much more enjoyable when you don’t have a four year old running through the mall terrorizing everything in sight. He unexpectedly ended up at the mall with us in the end, but it was nice to have a few minutes of stress free shopping.
Sometimes it’s hard to want to work with your ex, especially when you feel like they have been unfair to you, but in the end it’s not really about your ex, it’s about your child. You have to do what’s best for your child regardless of how you feel about it. Their needs are most important. You have to give them the chance to love both of you and to spend time with both of you. I didn’t have to let Logan go with his dad today, but I did because I had to put my feelings aside and do what was best for my son, and in the end, that’s all that really matters.