There’s a lot of truth in this quote by Zsa Zsa Gabor. ‘Husbands are like fires- they go out if unattended.’ I’d like to suggest we need to change it to read ‘Marriages are like fires- they go out if unattended.
That seems to me to be part of the problem. People live their lives as though there marriage and their spouse are not important. Everything else – career, hobbies, friends, family, or being right seems to take precedence over the marriage. If you are both working at your marriage attending to the details to make it the best it can be, how can it help but be good?
Another important aspect of a good marriage is a memory. A short memory is needed when your spouse does something wrong or forgets to do something you asked them to. A short memory is needed when you have an argument, so you do not bring up previous arguments and things that have gone wrong.
But there will also be times when you will want a long memory. You will want to remember the good times, the times he or she surprised you with a special dinner, a special gift, and act of love, hold those close and treasure them.
Take time to reminisce about the good times but don’t be content to leave it there. Go out and make more special memories to tide you over in the times when things aren’t working so well. If we all stopped and thought more often about the positive aspects of our spouse and our marriages and thanked them for them rather than dwell on the negatives, I’m sure there would be less need to stray, less divorce. Choose to make sure your spouse feel they are the most important person in your life. Because that’s exactly what they should be.
You might think that is naive but all I can tell you are the things we have found worked in our marriage.
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