It’s official, men who help their wives with housework, shopping and caring for children are less likely to have their marriages end in divorce, according to a study in the United Kingdom.
There could be several reasons for this. One is that when the wife is working outside the home she is under a lot of stress trying to combine work as wife, mother, lover and woman in the work force. Therefore she’s less likely to have time to pay attention to her husband’s needs and more likely to feel hard done by when he does not help out. This will ultimately lead to feelings of resentment and quarrels. However when he does do his share of chores, it eases the burden on her time, allowing her some time to herself.
It could also be that husbands who do help out with chores are by nature more supportive and caring of their wives than those who do not. What do you think? Is that a fair assumption? Perhaps they are not so firmly entrenched in role models of what they consider men or will or will not do.
Even lower risk of divorce occurs, when the wife does not work and the husband still helps out with household chores and childcare. Even though she is not in the paid work force, he realizes that what she does at home is valuable but he also sees the value in giving a hand. He realizes that being manly isn’t about lording it over his wife but working with her in partnership in the home as well as in child rearing.
The reality is the more couples share the chores, the more time it frees up for them to spend tome together doing other things. Even doing chores together can be fun if the couples approach it with the right attitude to make it so.
I believe relationships grow closer together where there is shared duties and co-operation than where roles are clearly segregated and there is little give and take. Would you agree?
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