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Lessons from Losing

Do you try to soften the blow when your kid comes up a loser?

In England, kiddie soccer league officials are doing their part to placate sensitive tykes when one team of mini athletes trounces another.

To avoid the tears that tend to fall when one group of kids royally embarrasses their peers, Telford Junior league in Shropshire has not been publishing the actual score of its soccer games. League officials say that in heavy defeats, the score reads: 1-0, 0-1 or 0-0, in order to protect the welfare of its young players.

As you can imagine, the policy is being heavily criticized by some parents who want the real results to be published regardless of whether their kid is on the losing team. One dad went as far as calling the league’s decision a “disgrace” and a “disservice” to kids who are taught to tell the truth and lose gracefully.

For their part, the league is maintaining its position. An official with the group says that after a series of events, including one game where a young goalkeeper cried for more than an hour after 20 goals got by him, it simply didn’t make sense to print blowouts.

“When results are in double figures it does nobody any good to print that,” a league official told news reporters. “Whoever wins still gets the result and the one which wins the most games wins the league.”

I can’t bear to see my kid cry when she loses a game, event or even a sock, but I’m not sure lying about a score is really the key to minimizing embarrassment. If you’re going to go as far as fudging the actual results, perhaps it would make more sense to simply call the game when the other team scores so many points that it would be physically impossible to make up the difference.

What do you make of the scoring brouhaha?

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About Michele Cheplic

Michele Cheplic was born and raised in Hilo, Hawaii, but now lives in Wisconsin. Michele graduated from the University of Wisconsin-Madison with a degree in Journalism. She spent the next ten years as a television anchor and reporter at various stations throughout the country (from the CBS affiliate in Honolulu to the NBC affiliate in Green Bay). She has won numerous honors including an Emmy Award and multiple Edward R. Murrow awards honoring outstanding achievements in broadcast journalism. In addition, she has received awards from the Aircraft Owners and Pilots Association for her reports on air travel and the Wisconsin Education Association Council for her stories on education. Michele has since left television to concentrate on being a mom and freelance writer.