In single parent families, we parents do not always have to DO it all—this time of year there can be so many “chores” to do—gifts to wrap, cards to address, cookies to bake, etc. Instead of trying to be Super Parent and juggle all the balls, we can let our children in on the action. It can be another opportunity for our kids to help out in a useful way and get involved in the season—and by sharing the load we can also build a stronger, more bonded family…
Over the years, my kids have not only gotten used to helping out this time of year—but it has really become our single parent family culture. We are not one of those families where mom does everything and the kids sit around and eat fudge. The kids actually help make the fudge (and the snack mix, cookies, etc.), put up and decorate the tree and the rest of the house, help with wrapping and cards, etc. My kids are even old enough now that they can be sent out to run errands or pick up extra supplies.
I am a bit biased in that I think that children of single parent families DO get the opportunity to take on more responsibilities and help out substantially in important ways—not just busy work. My children really like it and almost take their involvement for granted. Of course, as a parent this means letting go and turning things over—not micromanaging. This year my kids decided where the tree would go and I kept my mouth shut—if I’m going to ask them to do things, I need to let them have as much autonomy as possible. Again, I think this can be a real positive in single parent families—since there are not two adults to share the work load, our kids get to experience the fun and pride that comes with “taking care of things.” During the holiday season, sharing the “chores” usually means sharing the fun too.
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