Life doesn’t always come in neat little packages. That has certainly been something my husband and I have discovered over the past couple of weeks.
In fact, our packages have consisted of things such as problems with our teens (some minor and some not), an unexpected medical emergency ($751), family drama during Thanksgiving, a job change for my husband, a vehicle dying on us, and now trying to figure out how three drivers can share two vehicles.
All of this in just two weeks…and meanwhile, I am trying to enjoy what is supposed to be the best time of the year. Oh yes, let me throw in there that we have also been taking turns getting sick (as of today it is my turn).
Marriage definitely gets tested in the bigger trials but even the somewhat “smaller” things can make or break it…especially when you have several smaller things going on at once.
It has taken quite a bit of work to not allow these trials to overtake us, or for us to end up taking it out on each other. Have we navigated these tumultuous waters perfectly? I would be lying if I said we have.
We have definitely experienced our testy moments toward one another. We have sometimes allowed our stress to get the best of us. But for the most part, we have managed well.
I guess after 20 years of marriage, you come to the point where you realize that life will always take turns we don’t expect or don’t desire. But you don’t allow them to consume you to a point where your marriage is destroyed.
It is easy to let that happen. It is easy when you become selfish and put your own feelings before the other. But in the end, when the smoke has cleared and everything has died down…what I want to show for it is that marriage can make it through anything.
I hope this is exactly what we teach our children.
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