The obvious L word for a marriage is love. But there are two aspects to love, loving and being lovable. I’ve seen several posts on the discussion forums recently where people have been hurt by what their loved one has done. In each case the person has shown little regard for the feelings of their partner, because they are so totally focused on getting what they want regardless of who is hurt in the process.
Loving
Love is about giving and putting yourself out for the other person. It’s not about always wanting your own way in a relationship. Sadly, in too many marriages we see in celebrities or in the people we know, there is more self-love exhibited rather than love for the other person.
Loving shows itself in the things we say but more in the things we do to please our spouse. If we love them surely our aim then should be to make them happy and to find ways to do that?Lovable
I’m sure we all know someone we would call a ‘people person.’ In other words they like the company of other people and show an interest in them. As a result, people gravitate towards them and they are invariably popular. The same holds true in a marriage that if you show interest in your spouse and their work and activities, it will help strengthen your relationship and make you more lovable.
Some people will tell you love is all you need. I’m not sure that’s true. Here’s another L your marriage needs.
Loyal
Loyalty to your spouse is something that is needed and yet often sadly lacking in some marriages. Yes, this means loyalty to them n the sense of being faithful to them in a sexual sense but also being loyal to them in what you share about your marriage. Some things should be kept strictly between husband and wife and should not be shared with friends, family or neighbors. This applies as much to details of your sex life as it does details of your latest argument.
Join me tomorrow for a few more important Ls.
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