Yes, Mick and I have been at it again – talking about marriage and this blog. I mentioned I was having trouble coming up with some Ms for my Alphabetical blog and he came up with a beauty or three. Read on to find out what they were.
Maturity
Marriage needs people to be mature. No, I’m not talking about physical age because young marriages can, and do, work. But mature in their attitude towards marriage and toward their spouse. That can mean not still trying to live like you’re still single even after the wedding ceremony. It can mean not eyeing off and flirting with the other girls or guys. Or it can mean not behaving like a child in your marriage which is what Mick was specifically thinking of.
How does a child behave? Unless they have been taught differently a child can be selfish, whining when they don’t get their own way and wanting what they want when they want it. None of these are good attitudes to take into a marriage. A marriage is all about give and take, considering the other person, wanting to please them and not expecting everything to happen instantly or to always go your way. Marriages and relationships take time to grow.
Modesty
I think this is something more of us need to think about, whether married or single. This means wearing clothes that are appropriate and that do not reveal more than they should. It doesn’t necessarily mean drab clothes though. I’ve always been a fan of bright colors, funky earrings and jewelry , nail polish, strappy sandals and high heels but not clothes that are revealing and leave little, if anything, to the imagination and that draw attention to and flaunt body parts that only your spouse should see when you are alone.
Malleable
The dictionary version of the word is ‘able to be worked or shaped under pressure without breaking’ or ‘pliable.’ Pressure is a part of life at times. All marriages face pressure of some sorts, whether through illness, financial problems, death of family members, work hassles, parenting issues, mortgage struggles, whatever it might be. It’s how we handle those pressures in our marriage that matters. We need to learn not to cave in to the pressures life throws at us but to work through them and handle them together working out solutions together in marriage.
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