Previously I discussed the difference between being a high maintenance and a low maintenance person. Good and bad people alike can be both high maintenance and low maintenance. Being one or the other does not necessarily mean that you are unloving or unworthy. Yet it can determine what kind of mate you make and how successful your relationships are.
As a general rule, relationships often work best if you lean more toward the low maintenance side of life. Life can at times be very difficult. Ideally, our romantic relationship should be the one thing that makes us a little happier and a little less stressed. It should not complicate things more by being demanding and full of chaos and nagging that high maintenance partners often contribute.
There is no doubt that at times both partners are going to carry out some characteristics of a high maintenance person. There will be times when you feel insecure, jealous, and needy. However, these feelings should not dominate your relationship the majority of the time. Every can be demanding to a degree.
If you take a close look at yourself and you see that in most cases, you tend to fall closer to the high maintenance end of the spectrum, perhaps a little change on your part could make a big difference in your relationship.
Are you continuously asking things of your mate? Are you always finding fault in what he or she does? Do you seem to always need more?
Making minor adjustments will likely be enough for mate to notice that you have adjusted your demands and needs.
Once you realize that you must also be a contributor in the relationship things will flow much smoother. Your mate will be appreciative of the new outlook that you have and you will be happier also.