It has been one of those weeks. Wednesday was the last day of high school for Hailey. What a milestone! What a crazy moment to be a parent. I’m happy, I’m sad, I’m confused. What happened to my baby?
Hailey came home Wednesday with her cap and gown. I cried, she cried. I remembered to take a picture of her in her cap and gown and text it to her father. I didn’t want him to miss this moment.
When you are divorced there are so many moments you miss. Whether your child lives with you or your ex spouse, there are going to be times that you miss something. Even when they are on the verge of adulthood, there are still things you miss.
I’ve been fortunate, I haven’t missed much, but Hailey’s Dad has. He taught her to drive but I took her to get her license. I was there when she got her first job, first boyfriend, first broken heart. I try to make sure to share all the things that are important with him, after all, he is part of the reason she is here.
When Hailey went to dances, her father came to see her off, when she had surgery, he was there, when she was in the emergency room, I called him and he came.
Those things are a given, I will never take that away from her or from him, but sometimes the little things get lost. Her Daddy will be there to see her get her diploma and be part of her graduation party, just like he is all of her birthday parties.
I think it is so important to remember to continue to share our children after the divorce, after all, we would want them to do the same for us. So I try to remember to take pictures, although pictures aren’t’ the same.
Hailey is lucky. Her Dad is there for her, he will be there when she walks across the stage to get that diploma and I would not have it any other way. After all, he is her Daddy and she is his little girl.