Making life changes are hard for most people. Add to that being a single parent and it is no wonder that many parents stress over big decisions. Every decision we make as single parents affects the lives of our children. While that is true for all parents, those of us who are single don’t have anyone else to share the decision with.
When there are two parents in a household and they choose together to make a change, they support each other. For single parents, we must be strong enough to make a decision and follow it through. While we may have support from family and friends, there is no one to share our mistakes with us.
I know I am going to make mistakes. I am a single mother and I am human. I know that I am not perfect. I do honestly believe that I do everything in my power to be the best mom that I can be. That is all that really matters to me.
While all is fine with our current situation right now, I have started to think about making some changes that would impact our future. What I want out of life changed once I became a parent. The decisions I made before becoming a parent are no longer what is right for me.
I have decided that it is time to make changes to improve my life so that my son will not face hardships from my mistakes. I have admitted before and will likely admit many times in the future that I was very selfish prior to having my son. Everything revolved around what I wanted. I made no plans for the future. I didn’t set up a retirement fund, a savings account or buy a home.
These things didn’t matter to me so much when I was in my twenties and focused on having fun. Now that I’m in my thirties and a parent, they matter. I have made a list of priorities and listed the changes that have to take place in order to implement them.
Having good credit, a good income and a house are things that will create a better life for me and my son. I can’t go out and get any of those things today. I can, however, make changes and start working toward those goals.
I have started on my task list and am making the effort to do what has to be done to accomplish these new goals. I know it will take years for it to all happen but I don’t think it is too late to work toward them.
Changes are going to occur over the next few years and that does scare me. I know that what I am doing is for the best. I also know that taking on these challenges and additional responsibility is going to make life harder on me right now.
No matter how hard the changes are to implement, they are worth it. My son will benefit from them someday. I know I will proud once I have achieved my goals. Isn’t that why we set goals for ourselves?
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