Marital bliss…it is a common feeling experienced by newlyweds and one that seems to deteriorate with time. We tend to view this as a bad thing but I would like to challenge that.
Marital bliss is romantic and all but there comes a point in your marriage when you have to learn how to live. The reality of life is that not everyday will be magical. There are bills to be paid, long days to get through, children to raise, pressures to deal with and the list goes on.
This doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy marriage while dealing with all of these life issues. It’s just that you have to learn to work through it together and you can’t do it in a state of marital bliss.
Being realistic about marriage is important. Not only being realistic about the challenges you will face but the reality that not everyday is going to be easy. There are going to be days when you struggle as a couple, days when you struggle as a family. But you need to learn how to work through it all.
At some point in your marriage you are bound to disagree about children, finances, sex and other vital areas. These can make or break you. If you went into your marriage with a sense of realism, then you will be better prepared. And if you are better prepared, then you stand a greater chance at working successfully through these difficult times.
I love movies like “Sense and Sensibility,” “Little Women” or “Pride and Prejudice.” They have romantic storylines where everything seems to work out. But this isn’t real life and as many a man has said to a woman, “I’m not your Mr. Darcy.”
Let’s face it, marital bliss is nice and all…but it doesn’t make a marriage work. Only hard work, selflessness and sacrifice do.
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