Marriage and confession go hand in hand. Every day that you wake up next to the person that you have committed your life to, you should realize that you will make mistakes today, tomorrow or maybe some time in the future. But, you will make mistakes. You will be tempted by not telling them. What they do not know will not hurt them, right? This is very far from the truth. When you enter into a relationship that is secure, you need to spend the time necessary to make it an open and honest relationship, one that you can be proud to be a part of.
Why Confess?
Everyone makes mistakes. If you are entering into a relationship and are planning to live the perfect life, full of easy decisions, peace, love and happiness, you may be quite disappointed. Each marriage, each person will find that life is much more challenging. Things happen, big and little, easy and difficult, life threatening and life enhancing. Things just happen. Yet, the way that you deal with the stones thrown into your path will do one of two things. If you and your partner work together to resolve them, they are merely stepping stones that will enhance your life. If you struggle with them, on your own and in such a way as to leave your spouse out of it, they will likely cause you to trip, which can actually hurt any marriage.
First, realize that any time that you enter into a marriage or relationship; you will have problems along the way. With that said you should be willing and open to confession with your partner. If you feel as if you can not confess, you will not. So, the same is true for your partner. You should be willing to accept that they will make mistakes and it is not necessarily about you, but about a mistake they made. They should be able to tell you of their mistake, to confess it to you, without feeling that you will love them any less.
On the other side, if you have something to confess, it is important to do so. Marriages must be built on respect and honesty if they are to last. That means that you need to be open with those that you love so that they can forgive and forget. It will come back to hurt you. Even if the problem itself never comes to light, that does not mean that the damage will not be enough for them to lack trust in you.
Take the time to allow marriage and confession to be parts of your everyday life and you will reap the rewards. You will be able to have a solid foundation in your marriage, one that will allow you to easily and effectively live your life. You will have a bond that is strong and harder to falter when you are honest with each other and provide forgiveness as well. Because life will throw stones in your path, resolve to work through them together.