When you are giving your all to your marriage, it’s natural to become exhausted. And when both of you are giving your all, then you might both experience this exhaustion at the same time. Sometimes it just takes too much energy to keep being positive and keep being supportive and keep being there for that special person in your life.
You know what – that’s okay. Every good thing in your life will sap your energy, and we need to take breaks to recharge. This isn’t to say that we take breaks from the marriage – good gracious, no. Some people use that as a catch phrase for having an affair, and that is very much not what I’m talking about. Instead, I’m referring to giving yourself permission to take some alone time.
Plan a day when each of you can go out and do things that you enjoy doing. Perhaps he’ll go to a gun show and she’ll have her nails done. Or maybe she’s the one who enjoys guns and he’ll go for a swim instead. Whatever it is that you need to do to get focused again, do it. And you know what – as good as it feels to be by yourself doing something that is uniquely you, you’ll come to a point in the day when you’ll say to yourself, “This would be a lot more fun if my spouse was with me,” and that’s when you know you’re ready to go home and spend the rest of the evening with them.
Marriage requires a lot of self-sacrifice. It demands that we think about another person before ourselves. Too much of that, though, without the chance to recharge, can wear us out, make us resentful, and keep us from giving the very best of ourselves to our relationship. And that’s what your spouse deserves – the very best of you.
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