I saw a blip about this on another marriage site and I went out to do some research and sure enough it was there. Couples in many places are now having divorce ceremonies. No, you are reading that correctly – a divorce ceremony. The idea is that the divorce ceremony would take no longer than the wedding did and it would provide the couple with a way of marking a profound change in their lives. Essentially, it would close one chapter and open another.
A Typical Divorce
A typical divorce requires filling out forms, hiring lawyers and declaring your intentions to dissolve the marriage. The papers are then filed with a court and as long as there are no disputes that need to be settled by a judge, the couple simply waits to receive a packet of papers to be delivered that declare their marriage officially over. The day the couple receives the paper is usually declared the day that they are officially divorced, but the divorce itself is actually official when it is filed and accepted by the court of record.
Psychologically, this is a tumultuous time period and it can be hard on the couple no matter why they are dissolving the relationship. A couple that hates each other vociferously is just as unsettled by their divorce as the couple that is amicably dissolving their marriage.
Divorce Ceremonies
Divorce ceremonies are laid out much like the marriage ceremony including invitations being sent to friends and family. They declare their intentions in front of their guests and their marriage is officially dissolved. It gives the couple and the friends they share and the family a sense of closure on the relationship.
While I am sort of startled by the entire idea, I also kind of admire it. There is a certain level of maturity and courage in standing up in front of the people you love and dissolving the vows you made. In a way, it’s also a way to demonstrate your respect for each other as people. I know many people who couldn’t make their marriages work, but it didn’t diminish their love and caring for each other.
I salute those of you who have chosen a divorce ceremony when they ended their marriages and dissolving together that which you vowed to build. There’s something truly poetic about that.
Have you heard of the divorce ceremony?
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