Why do people bother getting married if they are still interested in dating others? Please clue me in. I’m one of those fuddy-duddy, conservative, traditional people who thinks that vows actually mean something.
Granted, I generally defer to a position of “to each his own” – if no one else is affected. Yet, when you find married people on dating sites, saying things like “married but still looking,” I think it’s a little much.
I was looking around for information on dating sites to write about when I came across some of these ads. I’m not going to link to them, because some were more than a little risqué.
Silly me, I presumed that dating sites were for singles, not for married people to find extramarital “dates.” I will say this; I do give the people making such ads some credit. At least they were honest about the fact that they are married instead of allowing others to believe that they are single.
Still, I guess I’m just not “progressive” enough to understand why promises and commitments don’t mean anything any more. Why not just stay single if you still want the freedom to date other people? I’m truly curious. If I’m missing something, please, explain it to me.
Now, I’m sure plenty of people have other opinions. I’m sure some people think it’s fine for people to do whatever they please, and others may think it’s fine as long as the other spouse is aware. It is of course all a matter of personal choice. That may be true, but I know I’m not the only one that believes swearing your love and fidelity to one person for the rest of your life matters.
While I am far from being shocked or even surprised by this, I do find this trend disturbing. What kind of example is this for future generations? Don’t we want children to believe that sworn vows and values have meaning? Or, do we really just want a society where anything goes?
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