Do you ever exaggerate to make a point? We all do it sometimes, but it is not a good habit. When we exaggerate too often, it begins to erode our credibility. People simply will not take us seriously, if we are prone to wild exaggerations.
What about blowing things out of proportion? I think it’s safe to say we’re all guilty of that on occasion as well. When we are stressed, it’s easy to fall into that trap. We make a big deal out of even the smallest issues sometimes, simply because we are frustrated over other things that are bothering us.
To avoid these pitfalls, it helps to examine the level of communication in your relationship. If you do not feel like your spouse listens to you, talk about that instead of making an ordeal of something that may be dealt with relatively easily. Instead of attacking your spouse when he or she once again forgets to do something that you’ve repeatedly asked to have done, look deeper. There may be resentment over your expectations, and your spouse may be “forgetting” as a passive aggressive response.
Little things often become irritants because they are simpler to address. If you lose your patience over your spouse neglecting to replace the roll of toilet paper, there is generally a bigger problem. Are you feeling taken for granted? Are you overwhelmed because most of the household responsibilities seem to be left up to you? Try to figure out what is really bothering you and talk about the real issues.
You may have to sit down and examine things to understand what is really at the heart of the problem. It may not be clear what is really bothering you, but if you find yourself frequently making mountains out of molehills, some introspection is probably in order.
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