We treasure romance in our society, despite the snickering comments we all make about it. Many of us enjoy a good romantic novel or film and though we will deride them, the derision comes from a sense of longing about the romance. The idea that wives are more romantic than their husbands is a misnomer. Husbands can be very romantic and they enjoy romance themselves. After all, what husband doesn’t appreciate:
- A surprise dinner either prepared at home or outside at a restaurant
- Cards of love tucked into their suitcases when they are traveling for business
- Gifts tucked onto their pillows to wake up too
- Thoughtful words and loving touches (hugs, kisses)
- Receiving tokens of appreciation whether it’s chocolate, flowers or even silk boxes
Husbands appreciate the romantic gestures and they understand the romance of them. Oddly enough, while wives may want more romance in their lives and romantic gestures from their husbands, what they really appreciate are supportive acts. Husbands show their wives these supportive gestures by:
- repairing damaged items
- helping with the housework
- taking care of the lawn and garden
- picking up supplies from the store
Oddly enough, for all our love of romance – we can enjoy the gift of flowers and chocolate, it’s when our husbands provide their skills as hunters, gatherers and supply us with care and practical support – that’s what we perceive as romantic and we enjoy. So the next time you think your husband hasn’t been romantic enough, ask yourself is it the romance they haven’t been providing or the practical support?
Yesterday, my husband came home from work an hour or so early and cleaned the house. He vacuumed, dusted, took out the trash and deep cleaned the kitchen. He did it because he knew I’d been stressing about trying to get everything done and that the house was suffering for it – while it’s not flowers and chocolates – I think it’s one of the most romantic things he’s ever done and it’s not the first time he’s done it – but it never fails to make me feel special.
What does your husband or wife do to make you feel special?
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