The hard part about marriage is sometimes you get into a routine and you get so busy taking care of the things in your life, that you forget to live your lives. Today is a day that you can change all of that. No, you’re not going to win the lottery. No, your problems are not all going to miraculously evaporate. What needs to happen, what will happen is that you resolve to fight for your lives and to live your lives in spite of the problems.
Marriage Resolutions
Think about how you spend your day-to-day lives. You are both in a hurry. You’ve got kids to take care of, bills to pay, a house to keep up and if you have pets, animals to take care of too. You have your families and your friends and they all have needs too. The problem is you get so used to putting out fires, that you forget what’s like to just exist without all the fires and the problems and the constant push-pull going on around you.
The best way to cope with this problem is to stop looking for fires to put out, stop struggling against every single curve ball that life throws at the two of you. Stop looking at all the things that need to be done or taken care of and take a good long look at each other.
You need each other – you take greater pleasure in the world around you when you see it through the eyes of the people you love and you see the light in their eyes. Some times, the wounds in our relationships are deeper than they appear and will require more than just a quick fix.
Sometimes we get indifferent to our spouses and their needs, because we look at them and we see our partner – we see the person who is supposed to be there for us and we forget that we are supposed to be there for them too. We absent ourselves from the people whose needs are not loud and not intense; we have to apologize for that, but more than that we have to stop doing it.
With some wounds, you have to rip off that band-aid and let them breathe and give them time to heal. You have to take the time to just be with each other – even amidst the chaos of your lives. You need the casual touches. You need the intimate touches. You need the hugs. You need the kisses. You need everything to stop and to just listen and be there for each other.
Don’t push each other to the side and don’t settle for a few stolen minutes in the firebreaks. Resolve to live your lives in the now – and yes – you’ll still have fires to put out and you’ll still have bills to pay and families to care for and a house to keep up – but you’ll also have each other’s backs and trust me – one is the loneliest number when there could be two of you together.
So resolve right now – never settle again.
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