I first read Mitten Strings for God: Reflections for Mothers in a Hurry about five years ago. The subtitle appealed to me because I was a mother in a hurry, but also because I wanted to take the time to reflect and make sure I was at least coming close to being the kind of mother I wanted to be.
The book is a collection of essays on the experience of being a mother. Katrina Kenison asks some good questions. She asks what message we are sending children with elaborate birthdays and overstuffed goody bags. As the mother of boys she struggled with her son’s desire for toy weapons.
Kenison talks of the rhythms of motherhood and the rhythms of our days. She advocates appreciating the ordinary, to celebrate things simply, to pause for quiet occasionally.
Her own family gave up TV altogether. And she makes a good argument for it. She says TV turns us into “jaded voyeurs” who are “bombarded with violence, sex, and catastrophe”. And that you “can’t help but become desensitized to the images that wash over you”. Another convincing argument is that less TV means more time for art, play, and time for each other. At my house, I would have a revolt if I suggested no TV at all. But her arguments strengthen my determination to limit screen time.
I found the book inspiring because it reminded me that by our choices we can define our lives. Sometimes we forget that. I also like that Kenison writes in a friendly, not preachy manner. She isn’t telling the reader to do it her way, but only to consider the reasons behind your actions and lifestyles. She seems very aware that motherhood changes as the children get older and that our styles of mothering have to adapt to each child and circumstance.
I often pull out this book when I feel overwhelmed with the demands of motherhood. It helps remind me that no one has all the answers, and that I need to trust my heart.
Also See:
Everyday Traditions – Nava Atlas
Gifts of Self-Esteem – Mary Jane Woodger
Author Interview – Linda Paulson Adams: Motherhood and Inspiration