You may think this is an odd topic to cover here, but it’s important to recognize the things you may say or do that could sabotage your relationship and your marriage. Too often, we got caught up in our own personal dramas and trials and we forget how we want to and should treat other people, especially our spouses.
So here are some guaranteed ways your behavior can affect your relationships and your marriage in a negative fashion:
- Abandoning the use of common courtesy with your spouse and treating the bank teller better than you would your spouse — it’s amazing how far you can get with a please and a thank you and how quickly those little courtesies vanish from your everyday interactions
- Your schedule takes precedence over your spouse’s as do your priorities and your lifestyle and your spouse can either adjust or suffer – marriage is a partnership and it’s not just about you – there is no I in team
- Be sure to let your spouse known when they tick you off, even the smallest things should be highlighted – in all their gory details; because what’s more positive than telling your spouse, constantly and consistently how annoying they are? You know what makes this behavior even better? When you do it in front of a lot of other people. Nothing says belittlement better
- Double standards are a way of life, right? So you should be sure to exact those in all of your relationships – especially with your husband
- What you say is more important than how you act, be sure to always say your spouse is the most important person and how he or she comes first, then it should be okay when you share all of your intimate confidences and connections with other people – as long as you say your spouse is first – what you do shouldn’t matter, right?
- Emphasize what a wonderful parent your spouse is and insist they be the primary caretaker and more for your child – as long as you show up to play from time to time, then you’re doing both your spouse and your child a favor by letting them be the primary parent
- You don’t have to thank your spouse for the things they do – if your husband or wife cooks dinner, cleans the house, pays the bills – that’s what they are supposed to do and there’s no sense in thanking them or acknowledging their kindness and good gestures
It’s amazingly simple to sabotage your marriage. Have you tried to sabotage yours lately?
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