In one of my last articles I began discussing how in some cases we are less than thrilled about the partner choice of our friends. In some cases we try to interfere and in others we try to endure the friend’s mate.
My article began listing some ideas for how to handle it when you and your friend’s mate do not get along. This article will continue that list.
My first item (in the previous article) suggested to give the boyfriend or girlfriend a chance. If that does not work, you may want to move to an item listed below.
Make sure that you have details.
If you do decide to talk to your friend, have details and specific examples on why you do not think the partner is the right choice. You are going to need much more than “she is bossy” or “he doesn’t treat you right”. Your friend will want more explanations. Come back with certain events or comments that lead to your opinion of the partner.
Wait for proof.
If you think that the mate may be cheating, wait until you are certain and have proof before confronting your friend. You can cause a big disturbance if you only go on your thoughts and end up being wrong. While it is probably not a good idea to stalk the mate, you can do some investigating and likely find what you are looking for.
Open his or her eyes.
It will have a much greater impact if your friend sees the mate’s faults for him or herself. Trying setting up a scenario and let your friend see without you interfering. For example, if you thing that the mate is too controlling ask your friend to attend something with you that you feel the mate will disapprove of. Your friend may then see for herself and you will not have to get directly involved.
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