Some people think in this day and age the way to be correct and careful of not offending is to call all women Ms. That is the quickest way to get me off side. I’m a Mrs. and I’m proud of it.
The other day I received a letter addressed to Ms and I bristled. I don’t think we should make the assumption all women prefer this term. Some of us certainly don’t. Many of my friends object to this supposedly generic term.
The reality is we are married and we are proud to be married, so why all this wanting to not use Mrs. It simply means ‘mistress’ or ‘wife of’ and what’s wrong with that? I’m happy to be known as Mick’s wife.It’s also the reason I wear a wedding ring. In fact I never take it off. Because I am proud to be married. Yes, Mick wears one too and his never comes off his finger either. If the truth be known, ours have been there so long you wouldn’t be able to get them off without cutting them off anyway. But that’s okay. Neither of us wants to removes them.
To me it always feels that if the woman refuses to take her husband’s last name that she is not happy to be his wife but wants to be independent and that’s not a good start for any marriage. I realize this is a personal opinion but the thing is, once upon a time, no one would have thought twice about it.
After all if you’re not taking your husband’s name then you have a name that was originally your father’s. How is that making a woman more independent?
I realize others may have a different view and I’d be interested to hear it and the reasons behind it.
Others tend to combine the two and end up with a hibernated name which seems like a bit of a compromise. Maybe I’m just old fashioned enough not to see the problem in being Mrs.
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