This blog was inspired by a question posed from a poster on Families.com’s forum.
Bryan was the first guy I didn’t feel like I had to impress. Prior to meeting him I’d come to the realization that at 16 I didn’t need a boyfriend—though one would be nice if he were willing to accept me for who I was. Even at just 16 I’d come to realize what I wanted and needed out of a relationship was not going to come easy at my age. Bryan really wasn’t looking for a relationship at the time either. So when we met, I was myself and he was himself. We had enough in common to hold each other’s interest and got along great.
Because we were ourselves, there wasn’t the same kind of “honeymoon” period as with other relationships. There weren’t revelations or wonderings of “what ever happened to the guy I met?” We worked on our friendship while dating. Bryan is my best friend first and then my lover. I think this is part of what has attributed to a successful marriage thus far.
July of 2007 Bryan and I will have been together for 13 years and June we’ll have been married for 10. What keeps me with him aside from my vows and our children is he’s a great guy. I am able to see through his faults and know many women would be happy to take a faithful, hardworking and handsome man off my hands. I don’t ever want to take my husband for granted. No, he’s not really romantic and has his flaws, but I suppose I have too. I want my husband to see the positives in me, so I choose to view the positives in him.
So, on the forum the question asked was how does someone develop and maintain a relationship? I believe developing an honest relationship from the beginning will make maintaining that relationship much easier. In regard to marriage specifically, don’t take your spouse for granted.
If you have thoughts you’d like to share on developing and maintaining a healthy marriage, please feel free to do so on the forum by clicking HERE.
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Holding a Crown Over Your Spouse’s Head
Melissa is a Families.com Christian Blogger. Read her blogs at: http://members.families.com/mj7/blog