The closer our wedding got the worst the tension with the future in-laws got. I wanted the traditional wedding things like a reception with dancing, I wanted the garter toss I wanted it all. OK so I only had a few people that I knew that I invited but heck it was my wedding shouldn’t I get what I want? Well the answer to that is apparently NOPE.
I was told rather bluntly that the garter toss was trashy, if I had dancing or alcohol at my wedding most of my future in-laws would not come, the pastor who was going to do the wedding was my husband to be’s God father and he would not go to the reception. I was told who I could invite and who I could not. Basically I was allowed to be there, we could pay for it but how the wedding would be was not up to me if I wanted the in-laws there for my hubby to be.
About a week before the wedding my mother in law to be said she would not be coming to the wedding because she could not support our decision to get married. Really is this how my life was going to be from here on out? I really think I should have stood up for myself and did what I wanted, maybe if I had way back then the tension would not still be so bad. I guess what they say about hind sight being 20/20 is true.
On my wedding day I wore a beautiful wedding dress and underneath I had white Keds with bells on them. That may have been a little of me saying HA it is my wedding and no matter what you do I will be there with bells on. Yep that is the real me, the real me stands up for herself but for some reason I kept trying to keep peace.
We invited a lot of people and only about 30 showed up to the wedding. We were planning just to take family and a few friends out for a nice dinner for our reception but with so few people actually attending the wedding we took everyone out for an awesome steak dinner.
We look back at our wedding and smile because although we had to change it to please others we still had a great wedding. When we watch our wedding video we always smile and laugh, maybe because of the extreme amount of cleavage my dress showed. I had not noticed it when I bought it or wore it that day; I guess that was a little more of me coming through. The cleavage may not have been as noticeable if our video was not done by someone who kept zooming in on the cleavage. We had a friend of my brother in law do the video and I guess he noticed the cleavage more than I did.
The fun was just beginning!
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