When you find out you are pregnant, baby names will be on your mind. Some find the perfect name quickly and others still don’t have a name when labor begins.
A good way to start is with two lists of names. Each of you lists your favorite names for boys and girls. When you are finished, compare the lists. Are there any names in common? If so, you are in luck.
However, most of us aren’t that lucky. You may find that you each hate the choices the other has made. At this point, you will have to start negotiating for the name you like best. There are a few ways to go about this.
This is likely the first of many disagreements regarding parenting. How you handle this disagreement is an indication of how you will handle future issues as your baby grows. It’s important to learn to negotiate with each other and take your spouse’s feelings into consideration.
If either of you really hates a name, it will need to be taken off the list. If there is a name that you really love, but your partner hates, talk about it. Find out why your partner hates this name. You may find that it is the name of the girl who dumped him at the prom. In this case, you’ll want to let it go.
You may be able to negotiate for first and middle names, for example the name you like as the first name paired with his choice as the middle name. Another idea is to each choose for a specific gender. This worked for me and my husband.
When I was pregnant with our second baby, we were at an impasse for baby names. We agreed that we would use his choice if the baby was a girl and mine if it was a boy. Now, if you do this you may lose, depending on the baby’s gender. In our case, the baby was a girl and my husband got his choice. Fortunately, the name grew on me and I like it now.
When all else fails, you will need to start from scratch. Go to the library and check out some baby books. Browse the internet for lists of baby names. Eventually you will find the perfect name for your little angel.
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