Sometimes, especially when we have been married a while, it can be a tendency to let down our guard and think we can do what we like and our spouse will still love us no matter what. It’s a form of taking our spouse for granted.
While it’s comforting to know we can rely on them and that they will always be there for us, it doesn’t mean it’s a no holds barred situation. It doesn’t give us the license to say and do whatever we like and expect them to forgive us and accept it.
Marriage still needs to be treated with respect. For better or for worse doesn’t mean we have a license to show them the worst. Sadly, some people seem to think it is exactly that. They can say and do whatever they like and their husband or wife will still love them.
Yes, it’s true what we need to be able to relax with our spouse and be ourselves and not put on an act. But it’s not a carte blanche for willful, arrogant, selfish, or rude behavior. If we love our marriage partner, then surely we will want to keep the relationship harmonious. We will want to make them realize how special they are to us.
We won’t do that by behaving like spoilt brats and demanding our own way all the time. We won’t do it by thinking we can say anything to them, in whatever way we like and they have to accept it. I’m appalled at the tone, words and manner in which I hear some people in marriage and family relationships talk to each other. Familiarity should never be an excuse for ignoring common courtesy.
The simple please or thank you when we ask for something or when they do something for us is not too much too expect. Neither are the little reminders of how much they are appreciated. It’s something for us all to think about and see whether we need to make any changes for the good of our marriage.
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