We all have times in our lives that we look back and wonder what would have happened if we had done things differently. What if my ex and I had stayed together? What if we had never met? What if I had ended up with someone else? What if we had waited to have children? What if I hadn’t taken a year off of school? What if I had chosen a different path? Would my life have turned out differently? Question after question that will never have an answer.
I’ve had my fair share of what if days, but I am done looking at the past. We don’t have a time machine, we can’t go back and undo the things we’ve done. We’re not perfect, we are human, we make mistakes, but those mistakes are part of who we are. I would not be the person I am today without the choices that I made back when I was in high school. I never would have been as strong if I hadn’t had to conquer those things in my past. Perhaps, life would have been easier if I had made different choices along the way, but looking back doesn’t change anything. We can only look at where we are at today and move forward. What are you going to do today to make a better tomorrow for you and your children?
While you can’t change the past, you can change the future. Take the mistakes that you’ve made and learn from them. Look at your life and decide what you can do to improve. Set goals for you and your children. Life is never perfect, there are always bumps in the road. Take the bumps head on and stop looking back. No more “what if’s.” It’s time to focus on “what is.” I may not be where I thought I would be, I think few people are, but I am perfectly content knowing that I am exactly where I should be. Sometimes things fall apart to make way for something better. You just have to have faith in the bigger picture.