“One day at a time–this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering.”
So often we let ourselves get stuck in the past. We look back at how things were and we begin to define ourselves by the things that happened to us. It is normal to grieve your marriage, but you can’t dwell on it or you will never move forward. You can’t change what happened to you, no matter how much you wish you could. Leave your past in the past.
You never know what your future may hold. After my divorce I spent so much time worrying that I would never remarry and have a family again, that I forgot to live in the moment. I was so focused on what my future would hold that I lost sight of the things that were in my life now. I had so many blessings right around me, the first and most important being my son. He needed to be my focus.
We don’t have control of our future, but we do have control over ourselves. When we come to accept that things will happen in their own time and focus on being the best that we can be, that is when the miracles start to happen in our lives. Do I still worry about those things from time to time? Of course, I’d be lying if I didn’t, but I worry about them in a different way than I used to. I still want those things more than anything, but I’ve chosen not to focus on them. Instead of focusing on what I don’t have, I am focusing on what I do.
It is difficult to accept the things you have no control of. The longing is still there; but when you step back and focus on making today beautiful, the rest will fall into place one day at a time.