An interesting thing happened today. As I was driving to pick up Logan from his dad’s I was feeling a bit of anxiety. The family was celebrating his little brother’s birthday so the entire family was gathered at the house. I hadn’t seen the majority of them since the divorce and was worried about how everyone would react to my being there to pick up Logan. It had the potential to be a very awkward situation.
Instead they welcomed me with open arms. They each gave me a big hug and asked how I was doing and how things were going in my life. It was such a good feeling knowing that even though their son and I weren’t married anymore that they would still treat me as their daughter and be so kind to me. I was also glad that my son was able to see us together in that way. It is important for your children to see you interact positively with the people that they love.
I am thankful that my son has so many people in his life that love him; mom, dad, aunts, uncles, grandmas, grandpas, cousins, friends, the list goes on and on. Even though we are divorced, we are still tied together by a sweet little boy who we all love so very much. Maintaining these positive relationships can be difficult in many situations. I am grateful that we are able to have that in our lives. It will never be quite the same as it was. We have taken different paths and gone our separate ways, but our lives will forever be tied together because of Logan. What a blessing it is that even after everything we can still be positive with each other and have a good relationship for Logan’s sake.
Do what you can to keep these relationships in your life. You don’t have to seek them out or be best friends; you don’t have to share everything that is going on in your life, but the more positive you can be with your ex’s family the more smoothly things will go for your children. And isn’t that what we all want in the end? To make things easier on our children? It sounds like a pretty worthy goal if you ask me.