I’ll warn you ahead of time. You may not agree with anything I have to say in this blog. In fact, you might think I’m living in the dark ages…but that’s okay.
The issue I’m talking about today is friendships with the opposite sex. But please understand ahead of time that I am coming at this from the angle of seeing the destruction it almost cost my marriage and the fact I have been married for 21 ½ years.
My opinion is that having a friendship with someone of the opposite sex is playing with fire. Think about how many affairs started with that never being the intention. How many times have you heard, “It just happened?”
There is actually some truth to the excuse (and yes, it is still an excuse), that an affair just happens. No, I don’t mean that the one who enters into an affair has no control over it. But what I do believe is that many times it happens without any forethought.
You innocently enough develop a friendship with someone of the opposite sex. You engage in small talk. But then it begins to delve into deeper conversations, sharing personal things.
The more personal it becomes, the easier feelings can get all tangled up. You could have gone into the friendship never having any intention on it becoming more. In fact, you could have started off not having an ounce of physical attraction. But once an emotional attraction begins, the heart gets sucked in.
Are there exceptions to this? There could be, such as a friendship you already had long before getting married that has lasted for years. But I would say that for most marriages, it’s not healthy and it’s not a good idea.
Friendships of the opposite sex are most times the same as playing with fire. Eventually someone is going to get burned.